High school relationships: the detraction from self-love

High school is a time where one truly finds themselves and their self-confidence; however, many adolescents feel as though they need reassurance from a significant other. There are generally three reasons why high school relationships are neither “worth it” nor are they even meaningful. First, teenagers need to be focusing on their own mental health. Second, school work ought to take priority over some desired “Instagram-worthy” relationship. Lastly, high school relationships statistically do not work, thus why invest time into something when it has been proven will fail?

High school relationships take a toll on students, and forces individuals to seek acceptance in places other than their own hearts. 

“Before you involve your life with someone else’s, you need to love yourself,” freshman at Appalachian State University Lauraleigh Guthrie said. “I think a lot of girls who are in high school aren’t mentally healthy, and don’t love themselves; they rely on boys to make them feel good about themselves.”

Teens nowadays need to be focusing on their mental health, it is critical especially with the harsh social climate that exists today.

High school relationships are ineffective because most likely both parties aren’t mature enough to handle a relationship.”

— Lauraleigh Guthrie

They should be concentrating on their own growth rather than looking for validation in a significant other, especially if it comes with a lack of attention to school work. 

“Courseloads, extracurriculars, college applications, and jobs are already stressful enough, adding a relationship on top of everything makes (high school) even harder,” Northwest alumni and freshman at UNC Chapel Hill Emma Fagerberg said. 

The distraction from what is truly important — the students’ academic future — is more valuable than their desire for a relationship, especially when it has a high probability of discontinuation.

“Relationships are a strain on school work load and most of your life really,” senior Grayson Kanoy said. “I understand where people come from wanting to be in a relationship, but statistics show only 2% of high school relationships end in marriage, and then 1 in 4 of those end in divorce.” 

Many students end up investing large amounts of time in relationships that simply do not work in the end, and it only puts them further behind in their school work.

“I spent three and a half years of my high school career worried about a relationship with a boy who I knew would never take me seriously instead of looking at the bigger picture; my academic future,” Kanoy said. 

Ultimately, is it truly not “worth it” to be in a high school relationship because of how ineffective they are, how they prove to be a distraction, and just slow down one’s self-love journey. 

“I believe high school relationships are either serious or pointless — I don’t think there’s any in between for that,” senior Johanna Aparicio said.